Involvement in a child’s life is important for every parent and can become even more so when there is a divorce or custody dispute.
As a legal case unfolds, a lot of details about the day-to-day life of the family are sure to emerge.
A parent who must work, or travel often may feel discouraged and unable to “compete” with the parent who provides more clock hours of child care. However, it is important not to become discouraged. Each parent should strive to do the best they can as a parent, while still dealing with the reality of day-to-day life.
For instance, you may be simply unable to go to school events during the work day, but you can attend open house at night and show up for weekend activities. You may not be able to be a Room Parent, but you can talk to your children about school, know what classes they are taking, and know their teacher’s names. You can make sure that you are listed in your child’s school records, you can ask for online access to review your child’s grades and you can make sure that you are informed of school activities.
When custody and visitation is an issue a lot of factors will be considered in the case. Involvement in the child’s life, sincere interest in what the child is doing and taking pleasure in your child’s company are important. The history of your day-to-day care of your child will be discussed. Don’t wait to get involved.